Monday, May 05, 2003
Divorce ...
Divorce ? But y ? Izzit the only solution for hearts which can't work out a problem ? I've been raised to believe that marriages last forever despite the happiness or the unhappiness of either person. This turns out to be far from the truth. There's no such thing as marriage for life, it's more like a fine line between love, compromise and responsibility between 2 individual. If u neglect any one of it, be prepared to pay the price for it. For a couple to come to the extend of divorce definitely mean that there's some incompatibility or problems that they can't seem to find a solution. But if it's so severe, how did this 2 soul came to conclusion that they can live together in an institution called marriage in the first place ?
In Hinduism a marriage takes place in a temple on a preset day and time thought to be the perfect time for a couple to get married in the hope that it would be a life long journey for the couple. The chosen time are and date are normally determined by the movements of the stars and galaxies in our solar system. The wedding takes place with lots of mantras chanted, and not forgetting the prayers and also the wedding vows (till death to us part). What happens to all this religious processions? It doesn't work ? So when we have problem or issues which we can't solve we just choose to walk away from a bond that suppose to last for life long ? Maybe it's not such big of an issue since divorce is practically happening everywhere on a frequent basis to couples all around the world, but it's hard for me to digest, coz all this while I've been in a illusion believing that a marriage is a bond that suppose to go on forever.
A week back I got to know that my cousin brother is getting divorced. I got no idea what so ever of the reason for them to come to such a decision. To me, it doesn't matter who called for it, but as far as I'm concerned, no divorce is the fault of one person alone. I find it hard to digest that this couple is goin to call it off. To me it appeared to b a perfect match. They were in love for at least 7 years before they decided to tie the knot. They had lived together for years before they got married. To me, they lived exactly how I would want to live my life at least the courting days n the early part of their marriage. But now, barely 2 years of married life, they've decided to walk in 2 different path. The reason ? Wish I knew it, but even if I know the reason, I doubt I'll b able to do anything about it. I was in the middle of the action when they were going through rough patch in their married life.
So, is the only way of solving incompatibility is to walk out. If divorce is not the solution for 2 hearts not walking in the same path, then what is ? Do one just sacrifice one's happiness just for the sake of making the marriage last ? Or does once personal happiness comes before the sacred bond ? Maybe I'm not looking at the whole picture or maybe it takes one to be in the real situation to actually respond to it. So for the time being, I shall give my little brain a break from this issue coz I still have other stuff which is taking up my brain's resources.
@ 9:44 PM
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